Feel the fear: 5 things I learned as a reluctant skier surviving a ski holiday

Feel the fear: 5 things I learned as a reluctant skier surviving a ski holiday

Do you love skiing? Can you point your skis down the mountain, push off and fly down the slopes?  Can you let go, relinquish control and let the mountain guide you down? Do you love the thrill of speed? That is not me. I’m the one who stands at the top of the mountain, quivering, shivering, shaking, thinking how the hell do I get down? I am a reluctant skier living among a family of thrill seekers, who tried to survive her latest ski holiday. Here’s what I learned about surviving a ski holiday.

1. I had to face my fear, skiing is a mind game

What stops me from enjoying skiing is fear. And, sheer terror and anxiety as I stand quaking at the top of the slopes.

But as Susan Jeffers, the best-selling self-help author says I need to Feel the fear and do it anyway.

As a reluctant skier, I realise that skiing challenges me.

I don’t like to fully let go and I like to be in control. Skiing pushes these boundaries and takes me right out of my comfort zone. When I hurtle down the slopes, my stomach is in my throat, and my mind is screaming out: “Whhhhhyyyyyyyy?”

2. Falling is inevitable

There’s no way around it. I will fall and I fell a lot. I don’t mind the falling, it’s just trying to get up that’s hard. I have no upper body strength, and my core is no core. Once I am down, I am down. And getting back up on my skis is not graceful. I’m more like a middle-aged toddler throwing a tantrum!

3. Break it up

I’m not a ski demon, this reluctant skier didn’t ski until her legs collapsed.

I took full advantage of my reluctance to ski and broke up my ski holiday day with a coffee, a vin chaud or two.

And with the kids booked into ski school over lunch, King and the Mountains and I enjoyed hearty Savoie lunches washed down with a glass of Gamay (OK a few!) before hooking up with the kids for a family session of skiing. Funnily enough, all my clothes are feeling a little tight!

4. Take ski lessons

I took lessons. It helped to ski with a pro. In France the lessons are around two hours, running three times a day, mornings, lunchtimes and afternoons. Ski lessons were a great way to boost my confidence on the slopes, and there’s safety in numbers.

5. If I dislike skiing so much, why did I go?

Why didn’t I just duck out, stay at home, book myself on a yoga retreat or into a spa?

Last year was our first ski holiday as a family and it was brilliant. The kids took to skiing like little champions, whizzing down the mountain, bouncing back when they fell and sucking up the adrenaline. And I was, and am seriously jealous. Deep down I want to love it that much, but something stops me. I just can’t love skiing.

But I loved watching them have this experience, going crazy at the sheer volume of snow, building snowmen, and befriending the other chalet guests before pelting them with snowballs.

And this year, I tried, I really tried to feel the fear and ski! But hey there’s always next year!

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  1. February 21, 2017 / 4:35 pm

    I have never skied, I love the idea of it. But I think I should have done it earlier in life when I was a bit more care free. Now I would a nervous wreak stood at the top. My thrill seeking days are behind me. Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove x
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    • Tooting Mama
      February 22, 2017 / 8:23 am

      Awww you should give it a go! You are never too old for a spot of skiing and adventure!

    • Tooting Mama
      February 22, 2017 / 8:24 am

      When you start it pretty much a lot of falling. And as to whether you are good or not, that’s a state of mind!

    • Tooting Mama
      February 21, 2017 / 6:57 am

      Oh yes it has to be all about the apres ski!

  2. February 18, 2017 / 4:30 pm

    I’d rather zig zag down a hill than go full throttle. #SharingtheBlogLove

    • Tooting Mama
      February 19, 2017 / 9:42 am

      You and me! I’m a total zig zagger!

  3. February 18, 2017 / 11:50 am

    I dont ski- like ever
    but my husband takes our girls so this was just the read I needed!


    • Tooting Mama
      February 19, 2017 / 9:44 am

      Thank you! I think if we go next year, it might be a resort that has a spa for me to have a day off from the full throttle down the slopes!

  4. February 17, 2017 / 3:58 pm

    I’ve never been skiing, I’ve never fancied it and I’m sure I’d be useless – especially reading your description of having to abandon control, that’s so not me! The food and drinks parts of skiing sound good though, I’m sure I could get on board with that. Good luck with next year – you’re a braver woman than me! Thanks for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove
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    • Tooting Mama
      February 18, 2017 / 10:54 am

      The apres ski is always the best part. I’ll be having another go next year, attempting to let go and feeling that fear!

    • Tooting Mama
      February 18, 2017 / 10:53 am

      Thanks hun, always worth a try!

  5. Lisa Backsnbumps
    February 16, 2017 / 8:03 pm

    I’m awful, we’ve been 5 times and I’ve only tried snow boarding but am petrified of going fast! Since I’ve damaged my back I’ve now got a get out pass as I can’t ski. I’d still take the kids and hubby though and just make the most of the Apres Ski activities x
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  6. February 16, 2017 / 7:05 pm

    I have never been skiing before. Something I have always wanted to do but not sure if I could now.

    • Tooting Mama
      February 16, 2017 / 8:06 pm

      Got to give it a go, you never know, you may love it!

    • Tooting Mama
      February 16, 2017 / 8:06 pm

      It is a great family holiday, brilliant for kids – keeping them active and occupied all day. If you’re not keen yourself, find a resort with a spa. There are lots of non-skiing activities as well.

  7. Frances Tuke
    February 16, 2017 / 11:00 am

    You’ve nailed it! Skiing is an exercise of the mind as much as of the body. It takes years of practice and pushing those boundaries to conquer the fear – and then you find yourself looking for it!

    • Tooting Mama
      February 16, 2017 / 8:04 pm

      You are so right, I know we will be back in the Alps next year! I’m still waiting to look forward to it. The kids had their alarm set were washed, changed and the first down to breakfast! That’s how much they love it!

  8. Emma
    February 15, 2017 / 9:20 pm

    Eeeekkkk, I’ve never been skiing but it’s something I really want to try. Good for you giving it a go!

    • Tooting Mama
      February 16, 2017 / 8:03 pm

      Then you should give it a go! Hope you hit the slopes sometime soon!

  9. February 15, 2017 / 6:15 pm

    I think I would fall over quite a lot as well but like you said it is good to face the fear. Looks like you had a good time in the end as well xx

    • Tooting Mama
      February 16, 2017 / 8:02 pm

      I think I am slowly starting to enjoy skiing! Thanks for your comment.

  10. February 15, 2017 / 4:32 pm

    This is going to be me! My husband is desperate to go skiing but I’ve never been and I know I’ll hate it. Thanks for the tips! #BloggerclubUK

    • Tooting Mama
      February 16, 2017 / 8:01 pm

      Go for it! You just don’t know til you try! Enjoy your holiday!

  11. February 15, 2017 / 2:00 pm

    I think lessons are a great idea if you haven’t done it before or are worried

    • Tooting Mama
      February 16, 2017 / 8:00 pm

      Thank you! But I have skied a few times and the fear is still there!

  12. February 15, 2017 / 11:41 am

    Fab read, I went a lot as a child and fell off the drag lift so many times I became scared of them. I think if I went back now I would just have to face it!

    • Tooting Mama
      February 15, 2017 / 11:48 am

      OOh thank you my lovely! Those drag lifts are dangerous!

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