Feel fabulous – Learning to accept my imperfections

Feel fabulous – Learning to accept my imperfections

Do you have days when you get up and just feel rubbish? I do. Now summer is coming,  I’m bombarded with adverts telling me how I need to look. And it’s giving me a complex. All I want to do is leap out of bed in the morning feel fabulous, amazing, wonderful. But I don’t. How can I feel fabulous? Maybe by learning to accept my imperfections?

Being able to feel fabulous is important. If I am wracked with self-doubt, low self-esteem, and rock bottom confidence levels this will impact on my kids.

My little people are growing up in a world where how you look is all encompassing. And soon they will be linked, co-joined to this digitally enhanced world where what you see isn’t totally real.

The  State of Mind Report says: ” The unrealistic expectations set by social media may leave young people with feelings of self-consciousness, low self-esteem and the pursuit of perfectionism which can manifest as anxiety disorders.”

Feel fabulous – Learning to accept my imperfections

To address my need to feel fabulous I have been looking around for inspiration from women who have shaken off the shackles self-conscious anxiety and are saying: “Hell yeah, I don’t give a crap. I am fabulous, and the world better believe it.” They’ve learnt to accept their imperfections and now they feel fabulous. Yes, I want some of that, please!

Four women helping me to accept my imperfections to feel fabulous

1. I thank Lena Dunham for her imperfect thighs

At the start of this year, Lena Dunham appeared on the front of the February edition of Glamour magazine, looking fabulous, in pink hotpants with her imperfect thighs.

“Well, today this body is on the cover of a magazine that millions of women will read, without Photoshop, my thigh on full imperfect display,” she points out. “Whether you agree with my politics, like my show or connect to what I do, it doesn’t matter — my body isn’t fair game. No one’s is, no matter their size, color, gender identity, and there’s a place for us all in popular culture to be recognized as beautiful.”

Thanks, Lena, this summer I shall be gracing the beach with my imperfect thighs.

2. With Virgie Tovar, I am a babe!

I love the Call Your Girlfriend podcast. I don’t get to listen to it as often as I’d like to. If you get the chance tune in, it’s for long-distance besties everywhere, including you!

I discovered Virgie Tovar on Call Your Girlfriend. Virgie is an author, activist and leading expert of fat discrimination.

What I love about Virgie is the total acceptance of who she is. And the world just has to accept that.

I love that Virgie runs Babecamp to help us break up with diet culture and become a babe.

Thanks, Virgie, time to reclaim my inner babe! 

3. And Taryn Brumfitt is helping me be unstoppable!

The Body Image Movement is turning into a global force to rid the world of the body hating epidemic. And leading the charge is Taryn Brumfitt, an Aussie mum of three.

The Body Image Movement aims to teach us to stop hating and feeling ashamed of ourselves and to love our bodies from the inside out.

The Body Image Movement includes the film Embrace, an ambassador program, and a whole host of resources to help us love ourselves more.

Taryn also runs the Unstoppable, a six-week personal development growth program to empower ourselves and make changes to our life.

Thanks, Taryn, it’s time to be unstoppable

4. The Every Body Project

I’ve just discovered the Every Body Project over on Instagram. Miss Eaves started the account because she couldn’t find style blogs that reflect people like her, or me or you.

Miss Eaves is a brilliant asset to the body positivity movement. Her message is to feel joy about your body. Don’t apologise for not being thin, love your curves, celebrate your thighs.

And talking about thighs Miss Eaves has created this amazing song and video “Thunder Thighs“.

Thanks, Miss Eaves, so what if my thighs thunder, I’m gonna love them! 

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  1. June 30, 2017 / 8:48 pm

    I think we all need to accept our imperfections – we all have them. The world would be a pretty boring place if we were all perfect wouldn’t it? #KCACOLS
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    • Tooting Mama
      July 2, 2017 / 10:01 pm

      Too right, it’s our imperfections that make us who we are, I’m learning to love mine!

    • Tooting Mama
      June 28, 2017 / 7:46 pm

      Thank you my lovely, it’s not easy. I am trying to be more accepting of myself. And I love these women who are blazing the #bodypositivity trail!

  2. June 24, 2017 / 9:28 pm

    What a great post. The media and mags really don’t help us feel good about ourselves so its fab to see that some are standing up to the norm and being different. #sharingthebloglove

    • Tooting Mama
      June 25, 2017 / 7:54 pm

      It’s brilliant to see women start to shout out they’ve had enough, and make a stand for us!

  3. June 24, 2017 / 1:23 pm

    This is a great post and I’m definitely going to check out some of the links you’ve shared. My body confidence is terrible but I’m trying really really hard not to let my boys see that, and also trying to learn to accept my imperfections along the way. #SharingTheBlogLove

    • Tooting Mama
      June 24, 2017 / 5:53 pm

      It’s not easy to love our imperfections especially when the media just bombards us with images of sheer unattainable concept of beauty. Do check out those links, they are great.

  4. Mama Grace
    June 24, 2017 / 12:41 pm

    I love that we celebrate being happy with our bodies and being healthy. It will be such an important part of our parenting to promote a healthy mental attitude towards our bodies because of all that’s now stacked in the favour of unrealistic images. Thank you for writing on an important topic. #SharingtheBlogLove
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    • Tooting Mama
      June 24, 2017 / 5:51 pm

      Thanks for your lovely comment. I feel we have this wall of pressure that is trying to force us to accept a certain kind of portrayal of beauty. It’s just not the case at all. We have to feel it from the inside, that’s where it starts.

  5. June 24, 2017 / 12:01 pm

    It’s great to read about the support that’s out there for loving your body whatever size you are. #SharingtheBlogLove

    • Tooting Mama
      June 24, 2017 / 5:55 pm

      Thank you so much!

  6. Kat | Kitty & B
    June 23, 2017 / 6:22 am

    Great post. It’s great to have empowering role models no matter who you are. Not everyone will shout it from the roof tops or post their pictures on social media, but if they feel good inside and out, and they’re doing whatever works for them, then you can’t do better than that! xx

    Kat x

    • Tooting Mama
      June 23, 2017 / 7:44 pm

      I so agree, we need more women like these. They are fabulous role models!

    • Tooting Mama
      June 23, 2017 / 7:45 pm

      Thanks for popping by again! And yes completely agree!

  7. June 22, 2017 / 1:20 pm

    Thank you for highlighting these inspirational women. There is so much pressure on women to look a certain way. I am always frustrated by the number of twitter accounts that follow me, claiming to be able to “get me into shape” – what? just because I’m a woman and a mum, I must be interested in following a weightloss twitter account?! How about we have more twitter accounts that are about loving the skin you’re in and being proud of your mum body! #sharingthebloglove
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    • Tooting Mama
      June 22, 2017 / 1:29 pm

      Yay to that. That’s why I love these women who are really focusing on just loving who we are!

  8. June 22, 2017 / 11:45 am

    In a world that’s photoshopped, filtered and pinned, this is such an important message. We are what we are so let’s make the best of it and enjoy life 🙂

    • Tooting Mama
      June 22, 2017 / 1:30 pm

      You are right, all our magazines are photoshopped, digitally enhanced making what we think as beauty unattainable. But we are beautiful already, we really are. We just have to believe it!

  9. Cheryl @ Tea or Wine
    June 22, 2017 / 11:27 am

    You’re so right. I think social media does make us anxious and compare ourselves to other people too much and for this reason it worries me about how my daughters will cope in the future. Thanks for some brilliant reminders to not give a crap! #BigPinkLink
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    • Tooting Mama
      June 22, 2017 / 1:31 pm

      I agree. I really worry about what social media will do to both of my kids. It’s going to be down to us to help them realise they are ok as they are. And we have to start with ourselves!

    • Tooting Mama
      June 22, 2017 / 9:16 am

      Thank you my lovely. It’s hard to accept and love our changing bodies. I agree it’s good to know we all pretty much feel the same!

  10. June 21, 2017 / 12:15 pm

    What a fabulous post! Loving our imperfections is so hard but it something I try and do too. It is certainly something I have become more conscious of since having two daughters. These women you speak about really are inspirational when it comes to body image. Surely a beach body is just a body ready to go to the beach? Thank you for linking up to #BigPinkLink

    • Tooting Mama
      June 21, 2017 / 4:25 pm

      Aww, thank you. We just have to get on with it, none of us are perfect, but we can still feel fabulous. The only person stopping us is us!

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  12. June 21, 2017 / 10:11 am

    We try so hard not to use the “p” word around here. Perfection only sets you up to fail. It is totally unachievable. The Mrs. and I both struggled for far too long to let our little girls grow up with the wrath of body dysmorphia and hatred. Love yourself, love others. It really does work that way. Great post! #FabFridayPost

    • Tooting Mama
      June 21, 2017 / 4:28 pm

      You are right, perfectionism only leads to failure. Yes to loving ourselves and loving others!

  13. June 21, 2017 / 8:39 am

    such an inspiring post and just what I need too! the podcast sounds fab and I will need to check that out. I love a good podcast. and Lena Dunham just cracks me up in terms of how she just doesn’t give a cr&p about what others think! it’s fab! Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS. Hope you come back again next time!
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    • Tooting Mama
      June 21, 2017 / 4:28 pm

      That podcast is brilliant, actually all the Call Your Girlfriend podcasts are fantastic!

  14. June 20, 2017 / 10:02 pm

    I love this post. I struggle massively with body confidence, I’m not sure that I will ever embrace my imperfections but I am learning to accept them. Thank you for sharing with us at #SharingtheBlogLove
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    • Tooting Mama
      June 21, 2017 / 4:29 pm

      You and me! I’m really challenging myself to accept my imperfections. Oh and by the way you are fabulous and gorgeous. Stand in front of the mirror and say that 10 times to yourself!

  15. June 20, 2017 / 9:54 am

    Inspiring post. I have real body issues that stem from a previous relationship and whilst I have made small steps away from the way they made me feel. I still have a long way to go and I don’t think that I ever truly will. Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

    • Tooting Mama
      June 20, 2017 / 3:54 pm

      I know where you are coming from, my issues relate to a previous relationship and my long battle with PCOS. Finally getting some peace with myself…..

    • Tooting Mama
      June 19, 2017 / 8:28 pm

      Hey, don’t be too harsh on yourself.

  16. June 19, 2017 / 7:51 pm

    Mostly I stopped caring about strangers. I care about what my wife and son think, but it’s my body. I have to live with it, other people just have to look at it. #kcacols
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    • Tooting Mama
      June 19, 2017 / 8:27 pm

      That is true, so long as you and your family are happy – that’s what counts.

    • Tooting Mama
      June 19, 2017 / 8:26 pm

      That is so good to hear!

  17. Feelingmumyet
    June 19, 2017 / 1:12 pm

    Yesterday we went to the beach and i decided to wear a 2 pieces bikini for the first time. Guess what, i did get looks, but i think people were just surprised to see someone brave enough to accept her body. I posted a full body picture on facebook saying I love my plus plus size beach body and not ashamed of my body image and i feel really good about it. Boom! Hello summer, this girl is ready! 🙂

    • Tooting Mama
      June 19, 2017 / 2:09 pm

      Awesome or what! I love that! Boom let’s get ready for summer!

  18. June 19, 2017 / 12:25 pm

    Im 43 this year and each year i get a little bit braver in my own skin.

    • Tooting Mama
      June 19, 2017 / 1:00 pm

      Ahh good for you, I’m older and I’m still finding it hard. Taking inspiration from these ladies though!

    • Tooting Mama
      June 19, 2017 / 1:01 pm

      Maybe that will happen to me when I am 50 – I hope so. Good for you though – love the attitude!

  19. June 18, 2017 / 7:20 pm

    It’s a constant battle but I like the point that how we see ourselves will impact our children. Thanks for linking up with the #FabFridayPost

    • Tooting Mama
      June 18, 2017 / 8:00 pm

      Thank you.

    • Tooting Mama
      June 18, 2017 / 3:27 pm

      The constant battle, I hear you! I struggle with imperfections but take comfort from these battle cries!

  20. June 17, 2017 / 11:48 am

    Brillant post! I too feel like there are too many pressure on our women to look so perfect these days. I will need to have a closer too to these above wonderful ladies. I am following theeverybodyproject. What a fab idea!

    Thank you so much for linking up with us on #FabFridayPost x
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    • Tooting Mama
      June 18, 2017 / 3:26 pm

      Thanks, lovely. These women are amazing – it’s great they are there championing the real female body!

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