5 lessons learned from the joy of painting

5 lessons learned from the joy of painting

One of the great things about living in Paris, has been re-discovering a past love. A love that has been dead and buried for over thirty years. A love I thought I would never find again. I’ve re-discovered the joy of painting!

The last time I did some serious painting (not bathrooms or bedrooms) was for my art O’ Level which I flunked in spectacular style. After opening that brown envelope and seeing that I couldn’t even scrape a measly C in art, I packed up art for good. Who knows what life would have been like had I passed.

But thanks to a mum here in Paris, I’ve rediscovered the joy of painting through paint parties. Oh and we get to drink wine!

Paint parties are all the rage, companies are popping up to offer the painting experience to friends, corporates. Even stag parties are opting for the brush and canvas rather than drunkenly stumbling through a European city dressed as a smurf!

Allison, started her series of paint parties for mums living in Paris. The parties give mums time to hangout with girlfriends, make new friends, make connections. And while we’re sploshing paint on the canvas we can enjoy a glass of wine or two.

1. Staring at a blank canvas was terrifying but I had to start somewhere

Acrylics works best

Now that was terrifying. I haven’t picked up a paint brush in over thirty years. What if I am rubbish? What if it goes wrong? Where do I start?

But Allison is an excellent teacher.

She starts us off by making a 3 x 3 grid on the canvas on to which we start painting the background. By blending a few colours thinning or thickening our paints, et voilà, I am painting. Actually painting, like real proper painting.

I realise starting anything new is terrifying, but that one spot of paint has led a pretty decent work of art.

2. I can paint over my mistakes

Great American Nude

Then it starts. The little gremlin sitting on my shoulder saying the painting must be perfect but it won’t because I am useless at art.

But I’m not going to  listen to the gremlin. The gremlin goes back in his box. I am here to have fun. I bite into my brownie, and gulp my wine and paint on.

I do make mistakes. I do go wrong.

There is no room for perfection, I kick that gremlin out right out of my head.  I spent at least an hour struggling to get a nipple just right, but it ended up all wrong.

So what? I can I simply paint over my mistakes and start again.

3. I’m not as bad as I think I am 

Poppy in progress

And under Allison’s expert tutelage I have managed to walk away with a my very own piece of art.

I am pretty chuffed with my pop art piece, Great American Nude, Tom Wesselmann, and the 1919 impressionist,  the  Corn Poppy, Kees Van Dongen.  Both sit proudly the living room.

Flunking that exam led me to believe I was rubbish at art. But I realise I am not that bad, and the only person who has to like my work is me.

4. Children have no fear

Jungle Painting in progress

On the back of the success of the paint parties for mums, Allison has started paint parties for children.

I took mine to a session where the kids recreated Henri Rousseau’s Jungle Paintings.  The paint party concept was a brilliant way to get my children interested in a great artist and an amazing piece of art.

And when it comes to art and painting, children are not wracked with fear and self-doubt, the paint just hits the canvas and they are off. As if by magic leaves, tigers, toucans start to appear.

5. I should not have waited so long to pick up a paint brush

Seriously why did I wait so long? I can’t believe it, for thirty years, I let a little exam crush my joy of painting. That exam led me to believe I wasn’t good as something I enjoyed.

That has stopped. I’ve signed up for a local art class, and Thursday nights, I pop round the corner to spend two hours with a bunch of French ladies, splashing paint.

Dear Bear and Beany

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  1. January 4, 2017 / 2:28 pm

    Glad you got back into painting i dont know what i would have done without it you must have some great scenes to paint over in paris ..Keep at it …Love the Blog… Dan
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    • Tooting Mama
      January 4, 2017 / 6:13 pm

      Thank you, Dan. Yes Paris is very beautiful, somewhat preserved, but there are some really amazing parts, one of my favourite areas is Belleville – a stunning view from the top of Belleville Hill and fabulous street art too. Thanks for dropping by.

  2. November 10, 2016 / 3:02 pm

    This is fab! I love that you’ve taken it up again after so long. I’m not much of a painter but I love music. I had a 6 year break from it for one reason or another, but since I’ve started playing again, I LOVE it! Your paintings look fab too #SharingTheBlogLove
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    • Tooting Mama
      November 10, 2016 / 9:58 pm

      Thank you! It is so relaxing, and it’s two hours out of the house, no kids, hubby or dog! Just me and the paints!

  3. November 10, 2016 / 11:07 am

    Ah I recently did my first bit of painting in years! I forced the Mr into “arts and crafts time” and we did a little canvas each – it’s really satisfying isn’t it? I think we’ll be making more soon – there’s nothing like some creative freedom to keep the soul happy! #sharingthebloglove
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    • Tooting Mama
      November 10, 2016 / 10:00 pm

      Brilliant! Well done you – it’s so therapeutic, calming and then you have a piece of art as well!

  4. November 10, 2016 / 9:35 am

    I love the idea of a paint party. I miss art, I used to paint and sketch all the time when I was younger. I would have the same gremlins now as you had. But you are so right, it doesn’t have to be perfect and you can paint over any actual mistakes.

    • Tooting Mama
      November 10, 2016 / 10:01 pm

      Thank you so much!

  5. November 8, 2016 / 8:30 pm

    They are amazing, well done you for taking it back up. It must be lovely to have the time again to do something you love. Art was never one of my strong points and I am always in awe of people that can paint. Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove x
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    • Tooting Mama
      November 8, 2016 / 10:26 pm

      Thank you! But you are creative – just take a look at your blog, your photos, the ideas you have, that’s all creativity!

  6. November 8, 2016 / 11:51 am

    This is such a great idea! Honestly, I didn’t even got my G.C.S.E in Needlework but I love it! Sewing has become one of my passion too. I just love it. I think this is a great way to connect with your passion as well as make new and connect with old friends. Sound like a great night out for me! I wish I could live nearer to you so I can come and join you. Perhaps, when I visit Paris one day I can come and join your wonderful world or clubs/ parties too. 🙂 No shame – I have just invited myself! Haha 😉 xx P.s. I love your painting too. 🙂

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    • Tooting Mama
      November 8, 2016 / 10:22 pm

      So what if you didn’t get your GCSE – you love it that’s all that matters! Who knows maybe I’ll set up paint parties when I get back to the UK, I think they are a fantastic idea for connecting people!

    • Tooting Mama
      November 7, 2016 / 8:33 pm

      It’s a great way to spend a Sunday afternoon, painting and sipping wine!

    • Tooting Mama
      November 6, 2016 / 5:58 pm

      I love the paint parties, they’re such a great way to get a couple of hours of relaxation, creativity and gossip with girl friends.

    • Tooting Mama
      November 6, 2016 / 7:18 am

      Thank you so much, it’s been great to conquer this fear and get painting again.

  7. Zena's Suitcase
    November 5, 2016 / 7:21 pm

    It sounds like you have really rediscovered this. I love being creative but don’t think I have any artistic talent. Maybe a painting party would be a good place to start
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    • Tooting Mama
      November 6, 2016 / 7:19 am

      I think we all have a creative vibe, we have in our heads what we think good ought to be. You write a blog, you shoot blogs – that all takes creativity!

    • Tooting Mama
      November 6, 2016 / 7:20 am

      Yes have a go! You won’t regret it.

    • Tooting Mama
      November 6, 2016 / 7:20 am

      A good glass of wine sure does help quell the fear, it’s just a case of getting the paint on the canvas!

  8. November 5, 2016 / 10:21 am

    This sounds fab! I used to love art, so much so that I took my GCSE early and passed with flying colours, but since then I haven’t so much as picked up a paint brush and the most artistic thing I get to draw is stick figures for the children! This sounds so therapeutic, maybe I should try and get back into it! #fabfridaypost
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    • Tooting Mama
      November 6, 2016 / 7:21 am

      You should. I love the art class, it’s something I had wanted to do for a long time but always found reasons not to. It’s great for finding headspace.

    • Tooting Mama
      November 5, 2016 / 7:38 am

      I bet you could! Hey it’s just about being a bit creative, and letting that flow. The paint parties were brilliant for that.

  9. November 4, 2016 / 8:01 pm

    I used to love painting as a kid, and did art right up to A Level, but haven’t picked up a paintbrush in years. I’d love to pick it up again, I’d just need to find the time! Your paintings look wonderful and it’s great you’ve got the bug again. Thanks for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove
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    • Tooting Mama
      November 5, 2016 / 7:36 am

      Ah! Thanks for the comment! I’m kinda blushing. Wow you must have been good if you did art A level, maybe it’s time to indulge the creative spirit a bit – but I get you time! Now the kids are a bit older I can sneak out for a couple of hours in the evening.

  10. November 4, 2016 / 2:32 pm

    How does one manage to get an “F” in art, other than, like, not turning anything in…at all. Sounds like you’re teacher was a real a-hole to me! Glad you are painting again. I used to love painting as well, then work and kids kind of took over. :/ Thanks for linking up on #fabfridaypost!
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    • Tooting Mama
      November 5, 2016 / 7:35 am

      Ha! Ha! Me! Just crashed out! I’m glad I rediscovered painting albeit 30 years later, and loving it! If you get the chance – splash some paint soon!

  11. Dean of Little Steps
    November 4, 2016 / 10:19 am

    For someone who hasn’t done it in years, they look amazing! I’ve never heard of paint parties before and I think it’s a fabulous idea 🙂
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    • Tooting Mama
      November 5, 2016 / 7:32 am

      Thank you! I think paint parties are just fabulous, I love them! It’s been great to do something artistic, with other mums, no kids, and have a glass of wine too!

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