Interested in adoption? Not really sure if it’s right for you? Where do you start?
I have put together this resource page with websites, books and blogs to get you on your way.
Adoption UK is the leading charity providing support to those parenting or supporting children who cannot live with their birth parents.
The Adoption UK forum is really useful, with groups on a range of topics. It’s a great form of peer support, and a place to share and learn from others’ experiences.
First4Adoption is a national service for people in England who are interested in adoption. There are a number of resources worth checking out (none of this was around when I adopted!):
- The adoption process – what’s involved from contacting an agency to your child(ren) moving in with you.
- E-learning modules
- Support for adopters
Building the Bonds of Attachment: Awakening Love in Deeply Troubled Children, Dan Hughes: This is a brilliant book. If you are thinking about adoption this is the one book to read. Part story, part theory and easy to understand.
Calmer, Easier, Happier Parenting: The Revolutionary Programme That Transforms Family Life, Noel Janis-Norton: This really helped when our kids first arrived. Our lives was chaos, and we desperately needed to get life onto an even keel. There are some techniques and strategies in this book that really work such as descriptive praise.
First Steps in Parenting the Child Who Hurts: Tiddlers and Toddlers, Caroline Archer: I love this little book. I keep dipping in and out of it, it’s practical, easy to read, and helps you understand what lies behind your kid’s behaviour.
The Mommy Book, Todd Parr: This book really helped me when the kids were initially rejecting me as their mother figure. It’s bright and colourful, with delightful illustrations, and explains in a really fun way what being a mummy or mommy is all about. Enjoy!
What Every Parent Needs to Know: The incredible effects of love, nurture and play on your child’s development, there’s no room for naughty step in an adopted kid’s life. This book is about therapeutic parenting, parenting through love. It helped me to understand my kids’ development, what was going on behind a tantrum or why your kid might be naughty. It explains brain chemistry, attachment, and the chemistry of love. A great read.
There are some really great adoption bloggers writing about living with adopted child(ren). These bloggers are going to give you a true insight to everyday life with your adopted child.
Blogging is a brilliant way of connecting, supporting and sharing experiences.
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