Why I became a mummy blogger

The idea of a mummy blog first started a few years ago. After my weekly, Sunday morning run with my running buddy Paula, we’d crash into Caffe Nero for a post-run cappuccino and caffe latte. While we slurped our coffees, I’d off load the latest on our life with our newly adopted children. Sometimes it was funny, sometimes it was an emotional outpour of the latest parenting disaster or joy.

As well as a yoga teacher, Paula is a writer, she has a great track record, writing radio comedies for the BBC.  She suggested I should think about becoming a mummy blogger.

After a lot of mulling over the idea, my mummy blog, Tooting Mama was born.

OK, not a hugely original name, I lived in Tooting, and I am a mama. But, I didn’t want to stand out as being an adoption blogger, ‘cos you know what? I’m just a mum, who just happens to have adopted children. The name has stuck. And I now live in Paris.

Blogging about adoption

Too old at fourI started my mummy blog to write about life with adopted children.

What can I say, adoption is a unique parenting experience.

Like just normal parenting, bloody hard, with shitty moments, a relentless slog, permanent exhaustion, punctuated with moments of sheer utter joy. Ahh so this is why we do it!

But with adopted children there maybe a few added complications of dysregulation, lack of self-esteem, anxiety. But it is brilliant being a mum to my two.

My mummy blog, Tooting Mama has helped me share my experience of adoption:

Blogging about Paris

Want to move to ParisThen just under a year ago we moved to Paris.

I mean c’mon I have to write about this.

Seriously two years in Paris – what an adventure! Two years of eating gateaux, freshly baked baguettes, cheese. Two years of coiffing good wine and champagne. Two years of trailing through museums, art galleries, sitting in cafes looking cool.

The reality is a little different. I am a stay at home mum. It’s school runs, weekly food shopping, ferrying the kids to their activities.

But this is when this mummy blogger decided to moved up a gear. I’ve got a bit more time, and I got a bit more serious about being a mummy blogger.

Since moving to Paris I have blogged about:

I have guest posted on ‘Mama Loves Paris‘, a brilliant mummy blog, aimed at English speaking mums living in Paris, offering suggestions of what to do in Paris with children.

Over dinner with the editor, creator, top mummy blogger and power house behind Mama Loves Paris, Claudette Parry Laws, we swapped war stories about being an expat mum in Paris, the expectation versus the reality of living in Paris.

I posted Moving to Paris, and learning to love it, it had an amazing response with the English speaking mums living in Paris.

Paris is a tough city, different from its portrayed the image. It’s not like walking out on the set of Amelie. It takes perseverance to get on with life here. But almost a year on, things are looking a whole lot brighter. I have a social life!

Blogging about travel

A postcard from Northern IrelandSo King and the Mountains and I had 13 years without kids. Yup, 13 whole years. And we travelled. You gotta do something to forget about the fact you can’t have kids!

Mini-city breaks in Amsterdam, Barcelona, Bilbao, Paris, Rome. Holidays in Andalusia, California, Hong Kong, Sicily, Tunisia. Travelling through Chile, Argentina, Uruguay (OK, Uruguay was just an overnight stay) that blew the rest of the IVF budget, but we did decide to adopt.

 

Life with kids means child friendly holidays and travel.  I’ve blogged about our travels:

Being a mummy blogger is giving me new skills

This has been the bonus of having a mummy blog. Getting to grips with social media, wordpress – built this baby myself, installing fancy plugins, trying to understand SEO. I’m learning to take better photographs, and who knows, maybe I will  venture into vlogging.

Blogging has introduced me to the awesome and amazing mummy blogging community. I read some fantastic blogs, getting to know some fabulous mummy bloggers.

And, I’ve been learning lots:

Though I’m still a newbie, I’d like to grow Tooting Mama. I hope you’re enjoying what you have been reading on Tooting Mama, and that you’ll stick around for more tales of adoption, life in Paris, travel and more.

 

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54 Comments

    • Thank you so much! That means so much. I love blogging, and I love being able to express my views on topics I feel strongly about. Thanks again.

  1. I started blogging because I felt like there must be more ‘normal’ mums out there! Living in Toronto I came across so many extreme parents, I just wanted to talk about normal things haha! Great post. #fortheloveofBLOG

    • Hey I’m glad you found us! I think you should write a post about extreme parenting! I’d love to read it!

  2. Thanks for sharing, it’s interesting to hear the story of other bloggers, it’s great to be able to develop new skills, sounds like your doing really well. Time is something that’s holding me back! Thanks for linking up #FabFridayPost

    • I get you on the time, just not enough hours in the day to get everything done.

    • Aww thanks so much! I do appreciate that you enjoy reading about our adventures.

  3. Your life sounds so rich, exciting and fun you have so much to share! I agree blogging really does build a whole new set of skills. Fab post. Keep writing! #fortheloveofblog

  4. I enjoy reading about why others began blogging. I started because I’ve always had an interest in writing, I like the idea of having an outlet to express myself and I wanted to get in touch with others in similar situations. #fortheloveofBLOG

    • It’s great to have so much freedom to express oneself and just write what ever we like. Fantastic!

  5. So interesting to hear about why you started blogging and what it means to you. And your life is so fascinating. I love Paris, though I’m sure it’s very different to live there than just visit. (Lucy/R is for Hoppit)

  6. I love learning the reasons behind why/how other bloggers got started. Living in Paris sounds so amazing, although I’m sure it has its problems (learning French for one). What a good friend persuading you to give blogging a go, you’ve done great, I love your blog x
    #Brilliantblogposts

    • You are so right about the French. I have been learning for a year, and speak like a toddler!

    • Aww thank you. Hey don’t be jealous of Paris (it’s taken me a year to start getting used to the place!) And don’t get me started on learning French! The travelling has changed a lot – much more sedate and child friendly.

  7. I’m so glad that you took your friend’s advice and started blogging! I love your blog, it’s always something a bit different to lots of other mummy blogs I read, with a bit of a unique spin from your exciting life experience. Thanks so much for joining us again at #SharingtheBlogLove
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    • Thank you so much Katy – I love being part of #SharingtheBlogLove, it’s been brilliant to get to know all these awesome mummy bloggers – and I love Hot Pink Wellingtons.

  8. Oh wow, seems like you’ve had an amazing few years!
    Massive respect for adopting older children too. Looking forward to reading more of your posts 🙂

    • Thanks so much, we did have a long time with no kids. In our early thirties we watched our friends settle down and have families – that wasn’t working for us so we had to make the best of the time we had. Thanks for stopping by!

  9. Well done on your blog, you have some great posts. And can totally relate to many holidays when struggling with infertility to make it look like you’re having too good a time to have kids! Been there, done that! #SharingtheBlogLove
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    • We certainly got the travelling out of our system! We still have holidays but they are much more quieter, sedate, relax(wish) with the kids in tow!

    • Ahh thank you! Hey this Paris lark has been a tough gig, there are days when I’m homesick and want to be back in the UK. The blogs give me a little flavour of home, or I walk around M&S and get extra strong tea bags!

  10. I think my reasons for being a mummy blogger are almost the same as yours. I’ve just spent a good half hour reading through your posts about adoption and I could almost be reading about our experience with our two kids. I love your posts – I’m going to really enjoy reading some more of your blog! #BrilliantBlogPosts
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  11. I love the unique combination of themes in your blog. Mine is a little different too as i focus on teen kids and what happens when they leave home! I know what you mean about new skills – I’m on such a learning curve!!

    • Thank you, I shall definitely swing by and take a peek at your blog – teens! That’s what I’m looking for cos that’s where we are heading soon.

    • Oh thank you so much, it’s always good to get feedback! I’m not just sending words out to the blogosphere!

    • Thank you, I’ve read your posts they are incredibly moving. I’m passionated about children’s mental health – with adopted kids, its a big reality in our loves. Blogging has been an amazing experience, there really are some wonderful people out there.

  12. I think it is great. Blogging is a great community to meet some brilliant friends and share advice. I was prompted to start mine as people seemed interested in our weekends on facebook so I started a blog to go into more depth about our adventures. Sarah #SharingTheBlogLove
    Sarah Stockley recently posted…#ExplorerKids – Round-up #28My Profile

    • I love checking out your blog, and looking dreamily at the pictures, wishing I could be out there playing too!

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